6 Secrets To Break Down Barriers In The Bedroom

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1. Understand Each Other’s Differences

Let’s face it.  You two are different.

The way you think about sex, how often you think about it, how often you desire it, what turns you on. 

I imagine all of these things vary greatly between the two of you.

That is certainly true with my husband and I.    We have been on almost opposite ends of the spectrum.

I realize this is a broad stereotype and may not be true for everyone, but often times the following is true:

Generally, for men, arousal comes quicker than it does for women.  They are often easily aroused at just the thought of having sex or even at the sight of their spouse crossing the room.

For women, however, arousal can be much more complicated.  Arousal is often connected to a woman’s emotion as well as her environment.  As women, we oftentimes struggle to shut our brains off long enough to find our way to arousal.

For men, sex is their way of showing love and connecting.

Women, generally, have to feel loved and connected before wanting sex.

It’s no wonder so many couples find it challenging to find a balance.

Because of our differences, guess what we have to do?

Understand and accept that we are different! 

Neither is right or wrong.  Just different.

And that’s perfectly ok.  It natural. 

Heck, it’s biological!

Once Husband and I began to really understand and accept our differences, without placing judgement on them, things started to turn around for us.

Now that you understand you are different, click next to figure out where to go from here.




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18 thoughts on “6 Secrets To Break Down Barriers In The Bedroom

      1. Thank you so much tammy greene am not yet married but am planning to get married this year and i know if i follow these tips my marriage won’t be a mess thank you, thank you so much

  1. This is such great information even for long term dating couples. Reading this made me take a long breath for once and say, ‘I think we might make it’. This inspired me so much! Thank you!

  2. “For men, sex is their way of showing love and connecting”

    For many or most men, in my opinion, sex is their way of Feeling love and connecting.

  3. This (#6) sounds like a nice idea, but….
    From my perspective (male/husband) I feel a little guilty, and disappointed (in my performance) if my wife doesn’t orgasm. From my wife’s side, I know she feels frustrated if/when she’s not able to climax. She does the vast majority of the time, but occasionally it just doesn’t happen.
    I certainly can’t speak for women, but as a man, when we hear, “It’s ok honey, it was still nice….” we know that really means they’re frustrated and unsatisfied

    1. Love hearing from the male perspective. Totally understand what you are saying and can relate in my relationship. I think the important thing to remember is that when that a woman’s body is delicate and complicated and that a whole bunch of things needs to be working together to help her climax. Yes, it can be frustrating for both parties, but it’s ok. Neither party needs to feel bad. The more pressure that is put on the climax, oftentimes makes it harder to do so.

  4. All these advices mentioned have been my experience with my wife.
    I want to thank you for the opportunity of making understand woman and the environmental matters a lot. Time slot for intimacy just something to try out us now.

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