2. The kids have taken over your bed.
When we had kids there was one thing we decided very early on. Our kids were not going to take over our bed.
Once my kids hit about 3 months or so, we transitioned them to their own room and that is where they have stayed.
Of course they have slept with us if they had a nightmare or they were sick or scared. There are many exceptions to the rule.
But, for my own sanity and the sanctity of my marriage, our bed is for us.
But, I know that this is not the case for many relationships.
Here is my question;
If you always have a child in your bed, where do you and your husband get to talk about your day, cuddle, have sex?
If that is happening somewhere else and you are balancing the two just fine, then that is great. More power to you, for sure.
But, most couples I talk to who have their children sleeping with them are not communicating well, are not connecting and are not having sex.
No marriage can withstand this for long and remain happy.
HOW TO FIX IT:
If you do not wish to transition your children out of your bed, then I encourage you to find an alternative location in your house, where there are no children, so that you and your spouse can connect, have sex, talk, or cuddle before bedtime.
Create a special spot in the house that is where you meet for some one-on-one time on a very regular basis.
In order for a marriage to thrive a couple must find space to connect with each other without the distraction or worry of children.
Creating a space for this is crucial to the health of your marriage.
Check out the next way your children ( but really it’s you) might be hurting your marriage.
Great article! Thank you
Thank you so much. So glad you liked it.
Good reading… indeed children is critically important to us but by neglecting marriage is not a healthy practice… thank you for a great sharing
Thank you for taking the time to comment. You are right, neglecting marriage is definitely not a healthy practice. So glad you stopped by!
Have you heard of “Growing Kids God’s Way?” They talk about a lot of these things in their series – I recommend it to every parent new or experienced. There is always something new that I glean from it every time I do the study again!
No I haven’t. I will have to take a look. Thanks for the tip.
Good read. Spot on
Thank you!
I wish my husband saw it this way my step daughter was always his priority when she came around, my husband and I never slept together when she with us, and he would never allow our son to sleep with us once. It’s sad to say one of the reason my marriage is ending is because of this.
HI Karen, I’m sorry to hear that your marriage is ending. It is such an important lesson and one that is often overlooked. I am wishing you the best as you move forward in your life and start new adventures!