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2. The kids have taken over your bed.

When we had kids there was one thing we decided very early on.  Our kids were not going to take over our bed.

Once my kids hit about 3 months or so, we transitioned them to their own room and that is where they have stayed.

Of course they have slept with us if they had a nightmare or they were sick or scared. There are many exceptions to the rule.

But, for my own sanity and the sanctity of my marriage, our bed is for us.

But, I know that this is not the case for many relationships.

Here is my question;

If you always have a child in your bed, where do you and your husband get to talk about your day, cuddle, have sex? 

If that is happening somewhere else and you are balancing the two just fine, then that is great.  More power to you, for sure.

But, most couples I talk to who have their children sleeping with them are not communicating well, are not connecting and are not having sex.

No marriage can withstand this for long and remain happy.

HOW TO FIX IT:

If you do not wish to transition your children out of your bed, then I encourage you to find an alternative location in your house, where there are no children, so that you and your spouse can connect, have sex, talk, or cuddle before bedtime.

Create a special spot in the house that is where you meet for some one-on-one time on a very regular basis.

In order for a marriage to thrive a couple must find space to connect with each other without the distraction or worry of children.

Creating a space for this  is crucial to the health of your marriage.

Check out the next way your children ( but really it’s you) might be hurting your marriage.

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