Somewhere along the way, Mother’s Day became less about me and more about the people I loved.
It became about my kids and making sure they felt special.
It, of course, became about my mom and making sure she felt special.
It became about my husband and making sure he felt appreciated.
One year my husband asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day and I said,
“What I really want is a little quiet time for me. Just for me.”
I felt so guilty saying that out loud, but it was true.
I wanted a little break from having to take care of everyone else and I just wanted to focus on me for a little bit.
From that point forward, husband always makes sure that on Mother’s Day weekend I get some time for myself. I love it!
I still make sure that my kids feel special.
I still make sure my Mom feels special.
I still make sure my husband feels appreciated.
But, I also make sure that I get some time for me.
That’s what Mother’s Day should be.
It should be a day where you get to do something nice for yourself, because all year-long you take care of others.
Here are 3 things that every woman should do for herself this Mother’s Day.
Indulge
Go ahead, do it! Eat that chocolate cake that you have been craving all week while you sit with your salad at lunch.
Go ahead, and purchase that expensive piece at Victoria Secret that you keep putting in your shopping cart, but never buy.
Go ahead, order that cocktail at dinner. Just go ahead and do it!
This Mother’s Day I am going to buy that sports bra at Victoria Secret that I keep looking at online, but can’t bring myself to justify buying. Such a simple thing, but I deserve to get that for myself.
You are a hard-working mama! Celebrate that and give into a little indulgence on your special day!
Savor
A mother’s time is full.
From the minute the alarm goes off to the second our eyes close at night. The day is full of taking care of the needs of others. Rarely is there an opportunity to take time for ourselves.
Declare this Mother’s Day as a day for you and savor some time for yourself.
I love quiet time.
My idea of savoring my alone time is to sit on the couch in my bedroom eating french fries and watching a romantic movie. It gives me a chance to breathe, to laugh and to not have to think about anything for a little while.
You deserve to have those moments every now and then and what better day to savor that time for yourself than on Mother’s Day?
Release
Motherhood is a word synonymous with guilt, isn’t it?
At least it is for me. I feel guilty for everything. For not spending enough time with my kids, for letting them watch too much TV or eat McDonald’s.
I feel guilty for wanting some time for myself.
You name it and I feel guilty about it.
Release yourself of that guilt today.
What I have to remind myself this Mother’s Day (and you should too) is that I am a great mother. In my heart, I know that I am.
I am doing the very best I know how for my children. And, my kids are amazing. That must mean I am doing something well. Right?
So for this one day that is dedicated to all mothers, let go of the guilt. If just for the day.
You are doing a great job! You are an awesome mom. Your kids are happy! They know how much you love them! You are fantastic!
Own that this Mother’s Day and let it go.
Being a mother is a job full of endless challenges and abounding joy. For all that you do for your kids and your family, celebrate yourself this Mother’s Day.
Remember that you deserve to
indulge yourself, savor some time for you and release the guilt.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Tammy
Married and Naked
Great ideas!!! I’ll eat some chocolate cake O:)
Hope you enjoyed your day and chocolate cake 🙂
Never doubt you are a fantastic Mom, the best Daughter & Daughter in law, & of course you are wonderful, loving wife. You can see the love & joy you bring your family, on their happy faces.
You deserve to have YOUR Special day, a day in which you can do as you please.
Happy Mother’s Day, Tammy.
You’re so sweet thank you!!! Hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day.
These are great ideas! As a mom, it’s easy to fall back into that let-me-help-everyone-else mentality, but I’m learning more and more that I need to take time for myself as well. It’s not being selfish–it’s good for me. And if it’s good for me, then everyone else in my family will be happier in the long run! 🙂
I couldn’t agree more. Us mama’s have got to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of others.
I need to send this over to my mom, such a great read!
So glad you liked it!! Hope she had a wonderful Mother’s Day.
I cannot agree more with these three things! All mothers deserve to indulge, savor, and release this Mother’s Day!
Amen!!!
I love love love this. As life goes on it seems like we get less and less time for ourselves but it’s so important to recharge – and mother’s day is the perfect time! Hope your day today was incredible!
How true that is! I have at least one guilt trip over myself a day. I’m a mother now…shouldn’t I be the one giving out the guilt trips. Lol jk But in all seriousness great post! Us mamas can be our own worst enemies when it comes guilt and taking care of ourselves.
So true. I can definitely be my own worst enemy. I need to work on that 🙂