What I Didn’t Know About Marriage
What didn’t I know? What have I learned about marriage since being married? What lessons about marriage have I gained?
Here are my answers to that question.
Before I got married I didn’t know:
-A Happy Marriage is hard work.
-A man could own more shoes than me.
-I could fall out of love with my husband.
-I could fall back in love with my husband over and over again.
-Hair shavings in the sink could drive me to near insanity.
-How easy it is to hurt someone you love.
-How hard apologies can be to give.
-How important sincere apologies are.
-That “Til Death Do Us Part” is no small feat.
-How miserable marriage can make you feel.
-How blissfully happy marriage can make you feel.
-I would, sometimes, question whether or not “Happily Ever After” really exists.
-That I am stronger than I ever thought.
-That I could feel so much passion 15 years into marriage.
-That the sound of coffee slurping would bring me to the point of wanting, desperately, to hit something.
-Our differences over what furniture to buy, would lead to a public and embarrassing display of me losing my mind.
-He would be so opinionated about how to load the dishwasher.
-That I would find his opinions so irritating.
-Seeing him succeed could mean more to me than my own success ever would.
-I would lose myself.
-Losing myself sounds romantic, but really just leads to me feeling lost.
-Staying connected to me would be challenging.
-Time alone with my husband would be scarce and sacred time that I will go to all lengths to find.
-That I could truly love him more now than the day I married him.
-I could be so mean.
-I could depend so heavily on someone else.
-Intimacy plays a vitally, and I mean vitally, important role in a successful marriage.
-I would still have to date my husband.
-That our arguments over money would never stop.
-Love really can grow.
-Learning to communicate with my husband would be a never-ending challenge.
-Having kids would change everything.
-That, at 38 years old and after being with the same person for 24 years, I could still feel like a teenager in love.
-That I can’t change him.
-I have a choice.
I could probably go on and on about lessons about marriage that I have learned, so far, that I didn’t know on the day he proposed, but I want to hear from you.
What is on your list? Comment below and tell me what you didn’t know before you got married.