4. Children take priority over everything.
It is just a fact isn’t it? We put our children before everything.
I put my kids before myself, my work, my friends, my hobbies, my health, my happiness, and even the well-being of my marriage.
It is just the way that I am.
I’m guessing I’m not alone.
But, is that truly what is best for the children?
HOW TO FIX IT:
I’m not saying that children should not be the priority. They absolutely should.
But, here is something that I have learned;
Putting myself and my marriage last are not good for my kids.
Yes, children should be a priority, but that doesn’t mean that they have to be the only priority 24/7.
I have learned by also taking care of myself, I am a much better mom. I am happier and more patient with the children.
And, I have learned that by also making my marriage a priority, I am teaching my children the importance of a strong family. I am teaching them the value of marriage.
I am showing them that making marriage a priority creates a loving environment in the home and in turn helps them feel happy and secure.
Make your marriage a priority too. Create time to be alone. Be intentional with connection and intimacy.
Having children is one of the greatest gifts anyone can receive. They bring about a joy unlike any other.
My goal is to the best mom that I can be.
I want my kids to know, without any doubt, that I love them and that I would go to any lengths to make them happy.
But, one of the truths of parenting is that there will come a time where they will move out. Where they will find their own relationship and build their own life.
I want to make sure when that time comes, that my husband and I don’t sit in the quiet house and look at each other like strangers.
I want to take comfort in knowing that I put the time and energy into, not only, raising amazing kids but, also into my marriage so that it is still healthy and strong when the time comes to let our children spread their wings.
That is the way we all dream it to be right?
Tammy
Married and Naked
Great article! Thank you
Thank you so much. So glad you liked it.
Good reading… indeed children is critically important to us but by neglecting marriage is not a healthy practice… thank you for a great sharing
Thank you for taking the time to comment. You are right, neglecting marriage is definitely not a healthy practice. So glad you stopped by!
Have you heard of “Growing Kids God’s Way?” They talk about a lot of these things in their series – I recommend it to every parent new or experienced. There is always something new that I glean from it every time I do the study again!
No I haven’t. I will have to take a look. Thanks for the tip.
Good read. Spot on
Thank you!
I wish my husband saw it this way my step daughter was always his priority when she came around, my husband and I never slept together when she with us, and he would never allow our son to sleep with us once. It’s sad to say one of the reason my marriage is ending is because of this.
HI Karen, I’m sorry to hear that your marriage is ending. It is such an important lesson and one that is often overlooked. I am wishing you the best as you move forward in your life and start new adventures!