Marriage Problems and Appreciation
So many times I hear people say the words, “They just don’t appreciate me.” Feeling appreciated is a common need that we all share. It is a basic human desire to know that all that we give and all that we do doesn’t go unnoticed. Some minor marriage problems can be fixed by simply showing your spouse some appreciation.
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines appreciation as, “an expression of admiration, approval or gratitude.” Do you show your spouse appreciation? Do they know how grateful you are for all that they do for you and your family? Here are a few ideas to help you find ways to express yourself so they will never doubt your appreciation.
Thank You Notes
Leave thank you notes for your spouse at the end of each day. Leave a note on their nightstand or a sticky note on the mirror telling them “thank you.” “Thank you for taking the kids to school today,” “Thank you for making dinner tonight,” “Thank you for working so hard to provide for our family.” No matter how big or small, it is important to let your spouse know that what they do does not go unnoticed.
Send a Daily Text
It seems these days that our phone is attached to us in someway, almost every moment of the day. Take advantage of that to send a quick text of appreciation to your spouse. Did they run to the bank or empty the dishwasher? Did they make you coffee or take out the trash? Send a quick note to tell them thank you. A gesture as simple a surprising text will let them know that you noticed what they did and that you cared enough to tell them.
Say “Thank You” Out Loud
I am sure that deep down you really do appreciate your spouse. The question is, do you tell them? You may think in your head, “That was really nice of her to run to the store to grab milk,” or “It was so thoughtful that he grabbed Chinese take out, so I didn’t have to cook tonight.” Make sure that you don’t keep those thoughts just in your head. Say them out loud. Don’t let thoughts of gratitude go unspoken. They are much more valuable when they can be heard by others.
Plan a little something special
Every once in a while, go above and beyond for your spouse. Plan a special home cooked meal by candlelight, give them a massage, take them out to their favorite restaurant, or bring home their favorite dessert. Taking time to go out of your way to do something special will make your spouse feel loved and appreciated.
We all work hard at trying to provide for our family, to be loving and supportive of our spouses and to take care of our children. Each of us deserves to be recognized for all of the energy and effort that we put in for others. Make sure you are doing your part to tell your spouse, “Thank you!” for all that they do. It doesn’t take much to let your spouse know that you appreciate them. Your spouse and your marriage will thank you for it!