5. Relax the mind

This is by far the most challenging thing for me, and yet it is one of the most important secrets.

For a woman, the mind is often the most important player when it comes to enjoying sex.

If you have a lot on your mind, or you are worried and distracted then you can forget being able to chill and enjoy yourself.

So, be proactive and figure out some strategies to help you relax.

Make sure the kids are taken care of, light some candles, play some soft music, meditate for a few minutes, watch something sexy, read a sexy book, practice some deep breathing, or take a relaxing bath.

Whatever it takes to help you transition your thoughts from what is on your to do list or how much laundry has piled up, to thoughts of relaxation.

Understand that a woman’s thoughts and environment are often the determining factor of arousal.  Take care of the mind and it becomes much easier to find the spark.

The last secret has been the most important step for me.  Don’t miss this one!